I don't normally write things that concern sex because i'm not good at it. And by that, i meant i'm not good at writing and talking about sex, not that i'm not good at doing it.
Ahem, anyway.
A few days ago, 贝 and i watched The Making of I Not Stupid Too on the TV. There was a scene of the boys watching blue film together. I remember that back in high school, i had heard rumours about some of my male classmates gathering at a guy's home and watching porno together. Many years had passed and apparently the teenage boys are still doing that today. I wouldn't be surprised if this still goes on 50 years later.
I could never understand how could a bunch of guys enjoy porno together. Wouldn't they feel embarrassed at all? I mean, what if they are aroused when watching it? How would they feel seeing each other's trousers tenting during and after the show? I'm a mature woman now and i don't feel comfortable even watching RA films with friends, let alone hardcore blue film. Or perhaps i'm just too conservative.
So, i asked 贝 about it and he said there was nothing to be embarrassed about. In fact, he told me that porno was part of the growing up for all boys. It was kinda like the sex education they get since none was given in school.
He told me that in the old days when there was no VCD/DVD and Internet, the boys only have three sources for porno. They could either rent the porno from video rental shops, get the videos/magazines from their friends, or stole it from their fathers. Of course, for the last resort, they must make sure that they watch/read the porno while their fathers were at work and put the videocassettes/magazines back to the exact hiding place where they had found them after watching.
For those who were daring enough to rent the videos from the shop, they didn't even have to say anything to the shop owners. There was a secret sign for it. All they had to do was just to cross their index and middle fingers and they would be shown the latest releases, even some hardcore ones. For some who were less daring, they would make guesses by renting the videos with erotic names. If they were lucky, they would get the RA films; if not, it may pretty well just be a boring movie with a silly title.
And in school, the boys would pass around the videos/magazines secretly among themselves. Not all boys would get it. Just a certain few who were in the group. To avoid being caught, some guys would change the sticker on the videocassette to "Terminator" so that they could deceive the teachers into believing that it was a harmless movie. This actually worked sometimes. I wonder if they were too smart, or the teachers too stupid.
I asked 贝 if the boys wouldn't feel bored watching similar things over and over again. He told me that those films weren't just showing men and women having sex. There were actually stories in the films and the boys do go for the story lines as well (yeah, sure). He said that during his time, there was this rather famous blue film that every boy had watched, which was the erotic version of Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs. Imagine that, the oh-so-happily-ever-after fairy tale being twisted into a oh-see-Snow-White-getting-f*cked porno.
The part that really grossed me out was when 贝 told me that the film actually had seven midgets having sex with the actress (the Snow White). Out of curiosity, i asked 贝 if the dwarfs had normal guns and i was told that their sizes were midget too. After that, the image of seven small men banging a normal woman with their seven small penises haunted me for the rest of the day. I guess i shouldn't have asked at all.
The conversation with 贝 about his sex education back in high school days was very, erm, should i say enlightening. But that still didn't explain why the guys could be so comfortable watching/reading porno together. We girls never talked about such thing in school, well, at least not my group of friends. Uh huh, we talked about everything under the sun except sex. We did share with each other about our crushes but we never discussed about the birds and the bees.
I wouldn't know about the penetration part of making love if it wasn't for my brother. NO, IT ISN'T WHAT YOU ARE THINKING, you perverted incest-fantasizing sicko. My brother TOLD me about it, ok?! We were casually talking about something and somehow i told him that i didn't know what happened after the actor and actress kissed and lied down on the bed because the next scene would just always show two naked persons covered with blanket lying on the bed. My brother was very surprised that i didn't know and told me about how the penis was supposed to be inserted into the vagina. I totally freaked out. I was in my Junior High then, about 14 or 15 years old. That was how i got my sex education.
The first time i actually watched a porno was when i was in Canada. It was late at night and i was aimlessly changing the TV channels with the remote control. Then i stumbled upon this channel where the scene was showing the close-up of the act. At first glance, i thought it was a documentary of milking cow or something. Don't ask me how sexual act actually resembled cow-milking. I really don't know. It was just something that came to my innocent mind at that time. Oh, and i did finish watching it on TV.
Now that we are all adults and with porno so readily available on the Net, it's not such a big deal anymore. Or so you thought. 贝 told me that in his company, a few male colleagues had formed a small group and circulated porno among themselves, very much like what happened in high school, only that it's no longer videocassettes but video files.
Well, i guess men, whether they are 15 or 50 years old, will never grow out of porno or sex as long as they still have their sticks.
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