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近亲生慢侮
我们往往不易察觉感情中的一个陷阱，就是「近亲生慢侮」，跟你在一起越久的人，就越容易麻木与忽视，而新鲜的「际遇」总是那么动人可爱。
在感情对待中，难免有摩擦与无心的伤害，而且论得罪自己的次数累加起来最多的人，当然是跟我们在一起最久、最亲近的人。而新欢呢，又还没开始有得罪你的机会，再加上他的刻意讨好，所以新欢怎么看怎么可爱，旧爱怎么看怎么讨厌。
但别忘了，新欢身上总是有不确定的未知数，旧爱身上就是有难得的熟悉感、确定感、信赖感。千万不要随便在偶然的「际遇」中迷失了自己，错放了幸福温暖的手。
Uh huh, he sent this to me, probably as a warning to himself as well.
Then why the heck he still did what he did, you may ask.
Simply, he's the kind of man who would not control his desires; he trusted his feeling very much, not having a concern if the feeling is temporary, or consider gravely about the repercussions. He does not like to analyse things and would just follow his gut feelings to do things. He would just let his feeling run loose and even being controlled by it.
Of course, that China woman was also very good in making sure he is hooked with all those tactics of hers. YY has never come across such woman before in his life, who took him as the target and used all those tactics on him, and hence he would fall into such trap and couldn't get out -- probably for the rest of his life if that is what the woman is looking for.
He is also the kind of man who is still like a kid. He is rebellious; the more people tell him not to do certain things in a harsh way, the more he wanna do it to prove others are wrong or to infuriate others (吃软不吃硬). He is also the type who will not believe in the consequences people tell him until things have really happen and he feels it for himself (不见棺材不流泪).
He is now in his passionate stage of his 3rd love affair of his life, so he may not realised that he had indeed "随便在偶然的「际遇」中迷失了自己，错放了幸福温暖的手". Now that he will be holding her hands (and body) all the time, he may be thinking that the "幸福温暖的手" is hers.
What he doesn't realise is that it is my hand that can bring him real and eternal happiness. And i've once thought the same too, that only his hand will bring me mine. Now all are lost.
Whoever's reading this and if you are a guy who happens to be in such similar situation now, please be careful of this trap. Bear this in mind, and do not do anything that may cause you to be regretful for the rest of your life.
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