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Wednesday, May 11, 2011

Upbringing

Hope this is gonna be my last post about that horrible tenant.

Last night, i heard of something even more outrageous.

When the landlady's mother was complaining about this girl to her daughter-in-law (i.e. the girl's cousin), we were told that this girl actually had refused to pay for the SGD200 rental when the cousin asked for it. The girl said it was her cousin who INVITED her to come and stay, not as if she came to stay on her own accord, so why she should pay for rental!

This girl is really an inconsiderate spoilt brat. My landlady is a single mother who works very hard to support the family and with an ex-husband who always defaults on the alimony. This girl actually has the audicity to live off people and feel that there is nothing wrong in staying and eating for free off someone who is technically not related to her at all!

I really feel like slapping the parents - yes, the parents, for not knowing how to bring up a decent human being. Seriously, i always believed that upbringing plays a big part in our life; it is often what moulded us into who and what we are today. A lot of personal values are instilled into us, sometimes subconsciously, since we were young through how our parents brought us up and the behaviours of the people around us.

It is a given fact that the world is filled with polluted minds now, and the media plays a big part in it. We also know that peers affect us a lot too, especially during our childhood and schooldays. The thing is that given all the potential negative influences around us now, the parents have an even bigger responsibility to ensure they take good care of their kids, not only in terms of material aspect but also on cultivating the right mind and good values since young, so that we grow up knowing how to discern good and bad, right and wrong.

I know it is easier said than done. I never said it is easy to bring up kids. It is especially more difficult now when most parents are working and leave the kids to the maid or grandparents. The parents put their focus on providing a comfortable and sometimes even luxurious environment and material life for their children, and place second priority on building the character and good values in the kids. Of course, we also see a lot of parents now who simply pamper their children to no end and yet they do not see it, until they have produced all the spoilt brats that fill up the young generation nowadays.

I can rant about this for the rest of the night, as most of my friends would know i hold strong opinion about today's young generation. I think i've actually expressed my views about this many times before when i talked about why i do not want to have any children. My point is actually very simple - if you are not gonna bring up the kids properly, then don't have any at all. Otherwise, you are only doing harm to the society.

Having a kid is not about bringing a life into this world to extend your own family name or gene pool. It is not about fulfilling certain responsibility as a son or daughter. It is also not about going through the cycle of life matter-of-factly. It is especially not about reproducing for our species.

It is a human life that you are going to shape, and this life is eventually gonna come in contact with other lives and inadvertently affects the lives of others. It is a chain effect that has wider implication than simply giving birth to a cute baby who has your nose or your spouse's eyes or whatnot. The failure in properly bring up this life may mean that other lives will be ruined in the future.

Anyway, how did i even get to this topic... i was talking about that selfish girl. Well, i know it's not right for me to think this way, but somehow in my heart i was wishing that she would get a hard lesson in life one day, so hard that it will not only make her change but also remind her of all her past misbehaviours and she will be sorry and repent.

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gee, bad blood was spilt, of course the tenant not gonna pay for the rental, and the wireless repair fee too with some cooked up excuse or reason. sigh, don't think it could be collected from the tenant anymore, and it sure puts the cousin in awkward situation. what is the landlady's brother doing? can't he stand up against this rubbish and demand the payment from the girl or her mother? can't he be a man to stop letting a mere 20 y.o cousin girl to bully his sister and his wife? sometimes it just gotta stand up for what is right even it will result confrontation. i guess the landlady would use the tenant as model example for her girls not to be like her when grow up, 有眼睛看了。

even family background is a factor, as you mentioned before mixing with right company could shape to better character too, like pinpin :). i agree much parents today pampering their children too much. slapping and rattaning kids are past actions that seem to be barbaric, uneducated and unreasonable. to some, it is deemed effective, others would argue against it, like citing violence begets violence (crap? i donno). whatever it is, mothers made the call what is the best for their children lor ...

oh, the recent bully case in school in malaysia, not sure if you heard about it. i guess watching parents subjected themselves begging for forgiveness would have greater impact on their kids than caning them.

anyway, let bygones be bygones lor, and hopefully you won't come across with such people anymore. hmm, you don't need to be overly agitated until wanting to slap the parent for the failure in upbringing their kids, calm down calm down, it's not nice to talk on slapping parent or beating kids on mother's day somemore ..... cheers, and have nice day , without the horrible tenant around and think about ... :)

I'm not sure if the girl will learn her lesson in the future. But, on the immediate note, I hope the cousin as well as the landlady's brother would learn something. Is this what he claim, "Christianity?" What was the intention in the first place of having her to stay with them? Lving without teaching (hard truth=painful experience)was not imparted in this supposedly "teaching" experience to the young girl, then what did the rest learn? Guarding your turf so that you'll not be taken advantage of? Who is going to be responsible for the "lost/damage" the brother or the cousin?

On the same note, I hope your landlady will learn something from this girl as well. For it's going to be a mirror for her (daughters). Is she bringing up spoil brats too? Is this what bible taught us to be? NOpe, for sure. Bible said that we ought to be a responsible parents for children are from God and parents are to gurd(ian) them and teach them and that's love. Simply providing material needs is not love.

God has His purpose for everthing. And I hope everyone learn something out of this "experiential learning" lesson.

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Sunday, May 08, 2011 @ 6:53 am: Breakthrough
Sunday, May 08, 2011 @ 5:09 am: Waiting for the results
Saturday, May 07, 2011 @ 5:14 am: Trivia of my uneventful days
Thursday, May 05, 2011 @ 3:59 am: A new bag
Tuesday, May 03, 2011 @ 3:53 am: A new tenant
Sunday, May 01, 2011 @ 5:19 am: A few things I noted about the royal wedding
Friday, April 29, 2011 @ 6:57 pm: The fairy tale wedding
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